Showing posts with label Zen. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Zen. Show all posts

Thursday, January 2, 2014

One Little Word 2014

It is that time of the year again when I can choose ONE little word that will drive me and my focus for the year.  Although I did not blog about my word much last year, I can honestly say that it was always on in the background.  My word waited to be called or needed.  Whenever there was cause, my word came out, took me by the hand, and led me to focus.
How could I not grasp for ONE little word this year?
My word didn’t take that much time or effort for me to choose.  In fact, I didn’t find it.  My word found me.  It was obvious.  It was waiting for me to pick up and put to work.
My word.  My ONE little word.  ”BALANCE”
Why?  Many reasons.  It fits.
Balance.
I tend to give all or next to nothing to a personal cause…or at least that is how it seemed to be last year.  I would be all in, or procrastinate.  Like moderation, balance was missing from my world.  I gained weight, let myself get caught up in worries about my profession and about the world at large, I did little writing, and I did a whole lot of nothing important while having so many projects that I not only wanted to get to and complete…but would have enjoyed them all.
Balance.
My change.  My movement toward balance is pretty obvious for me.  I need to find balance within and outside of myself.  I need to spread myself more evenly.  Not too thin, but evenly across what is important to me at this moment.  The t areas are My Writing, My Health, My Professional world, My Relationships, My fun projects, and My Peace.
Balance.
My writing needs to move from the back seat and find a part of my routine.  I am routine oriented, so one would think that this is an easy one.  NOT.  My writing will have purpose and a time slot of priority in my life this year.  It needs to become more of a habit than an event.
My health always suffers at the hands of my scheduleand my emotions.  Step one is not to allow my emotions to get in the way of anything, especially my health.  My eating habits and most importantly, my exercise needs to be a hunger for me as it was just a few years ago.
My professional world has so many aspects to it right now.  This includes my writing.  This includes my learning.  At this time, I have decided to simply enjoy the ride of my progress and create a trustworthy process to keep me growing while being in the moment with my own reflections and my students.
My relationships.  Even though I work with my wife and she is my best friend, we do not spend enough time, at all, just begin witheach other as a couple…or as one.  Because we share the same passions, sometimes the passions become our focus and not US.  That needs to change with balance.  Also, friends.  I have spent less and less time with friends…old and new…in the past few years.  I need friends and their differing perspectives on things.
My fun projects include building things out of wood, building or making things that only have meaning to me, cooking, and even cleaning.  I need to create.  I also need to get back into music whether it is a JAM session with the guys or something more regular.  I have moved away from so many hobbies including fishing, canoeing, and even camping.  Maybe there dis some room for that in my balance equation?
Finally, I need to balance in my own Peace.  Call it Zen, religion, or Native meditations…there needs to be My Peace.  In many ways, I think this is the foundation needed for my focus on balance.
Like anything else similar to this, there will be great times and accidentally vacations from my focus.  This is NOT a New Years resolution.  This is a quiet song playing in the back of my mind nudging me to where I need to and want to be.
Let’s see how it goes.  It all starts right now.
Peace.  Mark

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Enjoy Today


The stress of life sometimes get so much that we breathe the negativity that surrounds us. Let’s take this moment to shake it all off and learn to enjoy. Enjoy the moments in life that are so fleeting and brief. Enjoy those around you. Enjoy life as it is, not as you wish that it was. Don’t wait for the right moment to finally be happy. Enjoy what is, and what is now.

Please consider your life as a valuable asset, that is vulnerable and fragile. Treat it with respect. Don’t run over it trying to capture something that you are not even sure will make you happy. Enjoy what and who you have. Enjoy the now of life.



Peace.

Mark

Monday, March 19, 2012

Life Hurts.

I am reminded today that life often hurts. I have several friends that found out today that their jobs are in jeopardy due to budget cuts. So much for the economy getting better in my world. I found out that a friend had to put a long-time family pet dog to sleep today. The list of Life’s pain goes on and on.

I found myself starting to fall with them, into a pool of despair and anxiety. I had no idea why I was falling. Maybe because I can empathize? Maybe because I am just as vulnerable to budget cuts as my friends are? Maybe because I am feeling the weight of the world as many are in today’s society?

Whatever the reason, I was feeling the hurt of life. I sat down to relax with my wife. Had a glass of wine. Enjoyed the winter’s confused summer breeze of 79 degrees. And then went to my happy place. The place where I am a Zen-ful person. The place where I am a writer and can do or be whatever I want to be. It may have taken an hour or two, but I picked myself from the tar-pit of hurt and found a calm. My concern often is that my calm is a place of numb. I hope not. No…can’t be. Okay, I am Zen.

Please, my friends…enjoy life and know that all of the hurt of life is temporary. When you look underneath the pain, you will find love and good things.

Peace. Mark

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Make time for life

It is so very easy to get wrapped up in life. With work, school, chores, church, cleaning, eating, spending time with family, and maybe fitting in some exercise. There is reading, laundry, (writing for some of us), Facebook time, checking emails, checking the weather, showering, shaving, and answering phone calls. Some of us actually make time to use the bathroom too. When do we get to live life?

The Zen answer to this question is…you are living life. It is the attitude in which you approach all of these tasks that makes the difference. If you are waiting for the free time that might exist in-between all of this “life”, it is not going to happen for most of us. We might as well face it. But if we realize that this is the life and we do NOT have to set aside time to live, something weird happens. We have all of the time in the world. That means that every minute of every day is time to live life!

So how can this be done you ask? I can tell that is what you wanted to ask me. It is done by enjoying these moments. It is done by being in the moment and NOT thinking about what has to be done next. Yes…washing dishes can be enjoyed as part of living if we are in the moment as we wash our dishes. Letting our mind stop and feel the dishes, the water, and of course…the soap bubbles is life. Live those moments.

If we wait for NOTHING to happen to live life…at the end we will be very satisfied. That is all there will be to do. When we are gone. Nothing.

Live each moment. Enjoy the moment. It is life.

Peace.

Mark